Wednesday, June 21, 2017


Robert Frank Mittiga

Spiritual partnerships are the most fulfilling, substantive, and deep relationships possible. They are relationships between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth. I learnt from a wonderful man GARY ZUKAV, many years ago that “spiritual growth” means creating a life of more joy and less pain, more meaning and less emptiness, and more love and less fear. As we become aware of ourselves and become more conscious in our life’s journey, we long for relationships that are the most meaningful and rewarding as possible, and that support us in becoming healthy, vibrant, creative, and loving. These are spiritual partnerships.

I Love the following definition…..

“Spiritual partnerships are arenas for discovering and challenging your fears and exploring and cultivating your love with others. They are joint experiments, bold ventures into the eternally new territory of the eternal present moment”.—Gary Zukav

You can create spiritual partnerships within your family, with your friends, your co-workers, your neighbours, and the ultimate, with another individual as a couple. No matter who the spiritual partner or spiritual partners are, the spiritual partnership operates the same way. It is a vehicle that supports the partners in it to become more aware of their emotions, to become more aware of their intentions, and in making the healthiest choices that they can, choices that will create outcomes for which they are willing to assume responsibility.

Love or romantic relationships I believe can only thrive and grow if they are committed to spiritual partnership, and the individuals can come to see themselves as “spiritual partners”. Since committing to my own spiritual growth many years ago, I have learnt to be totally responsible for my spiritual growth, and not dependent in any way on another for that journey. I can only support and encourage another in theirs, and if they choose they are able to support me in mine. I truly believe this is our hope for both ourselves and our children in a world of relational and spiritual crisis and family breakdown today.


Tuesday, June 6, 2017

CO-ADDICTION: Enablers and loved ones of Addicts. Robert Frank Mittiga Recovery Coach

Enablers and loved ones of Addicts.

Over the many years of working with addicted individuals and their loved ones, the challenging reality I come across all the time is that the individual may have his or her drug of choice however the co-addicts have their “addict”. The drama an addict brings is the co-addict’s drug.

In many ways they behave much like the addict does:
  • A co-addict who was once responsible and reliable begins to disappear from sight when there is a crisis with their spouse or partner. 
  • The co-addict has highs and lows in mood depending on the addict’s state.
  • A co-addict, or person that lives life on the addict’s terms, will too become unreliable, may stop taking care of themselves and exhibit some unpredictable behaviours and erratic emotions.
  • Their life will, too, become unmanageable.
  • Enabling and loving an addict or co-addiction is also a sickness.

Patterns In Behaviour

What I have encountered over the years in my work, is the co-addict can become so addicted to the person that has the addiction (usually a spouse / partner / child) that their friends and family will no longer recognise them. Their behaviour and moods can become erratic, similar to how an addict behaves when their addiction takes hold.

“I feel like I am underwater and can’t swim up to catch my breath!”
“It is killing me inside.”
“Some part of me is praying for a miracle that I don’t believe can happen. Please help!”
“I just want to go to sleep and not wake up”

These are the words from the hundreds of people suffering who tell me their story about living with and loving an addict. They all want to know how to let go of an addict and if it can really be done.

Addiction Is A Symptom Of Something Else:

The path to recovery from co-addiction is not a straight forward journey because there are many hurdles and layers to this process. Some experiences and subconscious emotions may even resurface years later depending on the emotional, sometimes physical, and psychological abuse suffered. Other underlying factors are those individual experiences which led the co-addict to end up in this type of relationship and endure years with a person despite their unhealthy behaviours. If the addict is unhealthy, to some degree the co-addict may also have been before they entered the relationship.
The term “healthy” that I use is meant to be relative to the individual and not conclusive. There is no definitive description of what is healthy or not healthy; however, I use this to demonstrate a person who is not suffering in their life. There is no person unaffected by hardships, at least at some point in their life, but when the hardship is self-inflicted, or does not end at some point or becomes all-consuming; this is the point at which it is unhealthy.

Is It Time For A Change?

Life is a series of ebbs and flows and how you handle those fluctuations says a great deal about your well-being. When you are living with an addict it is difficult to navigate life, however, what we do and how we act becomes a tell-tale sign of our own difficulties. If we continue to behave in the same manner and expect that the response we desire will miraculously change then a co-addict is either in denial or is not willing to put their own health and happiness on the forefront.

Are You Choosing Pain Over Change?

A co-addict often feels “comfortable” choosing pain based on the fact that they feel being on their own would be more painful. Sometimes the thought of dealing with their own insecurities, lack of self-esteem, self-love and self-respect and being ALONE sounds more frightful than dealing with someone else’s problems. This may say much more about the deep-rooted issues a co-addict is suffering from. If you do not want to deal with yourself and extricate yourself from the cycle of the addictive relationship you are in; there is a most likely a great deal of help that should be initiated.

It may be time to analyse your own thought processes, behaviours and motivations in the actions of investing your emotions in a person who cannot truly love you back because they are not in long-term recovery. If you find yourself spending time worrying about the actions of someone else—this may be the exact time you need to start digging deeper into your own intentions and what you may need to learn about yourself.

As a co-addict, sometimes you feel like you do not have choices or you are unable to leave the situation but that is not true. Although it may feel that way, life is full of choices and if something different is what you desire then you can make different choices in order to set out on that new road.


If you recognise or identify with any of the above, know that there is help for you. Please feel free to contact us on PH 0439 399 809 (7days). With the wonderful technology we have available we can arrange online help for you via SKYPE, so no matter where you are in the world we can help and guide you. We can also assist you in intervening on your loved one as well. We have many options available, and can put things into action very quickly without delays of waiting lists. CALL TODAY PH +610439 399 809 or EMAIL

Sunday, May 28, 2017

ADDICTION and ISOLATION: Late stages of ADDICTION. Robert Frank Mittiga Recovery Coach

Addiction a progressive disease!

For many, isolation is one of the end results of addiction. What was once a fun and sociable part of life turns into quite the opposite experience.  In the fun stage of alcohol or drug use, we often like to be around others—that is, others who like to get high. Substance use often begins with laughter, parties, and hanging out with a group of people. Some people stay in this stage of use, control their drinking, and later go on to lead a responsible life. Others, like me, continue to use more and more.

Drinking Alone
One of the signs of addiction is that the person starts getting high alone. Drinking or using before going out partying is part of the addiction process—as is getting high at any time of the day or night. Drinking, taking pills, or smoking dope first thing in the morning may become the norm.

Why is this? The drug has now become the primary focus of their life.

At this stage, many addicts will become suspicious and paranoid. Straight people (nonusers) are more difficult for the addict to communicate with. They are potential roadblocks to the person’s ability to use.  At this point of addiction, you can usually count remaining friends on one hand. Often just other addicted individuals.

Once the addiction becomes primary, a dependent person’s life is preoccupied with using. He/she spends valuable time and energy planning their day, so as to make sure they will be able to have access to their needed amount of drugs or alcohol. Substance use has overcome the person’s life and it is nearly impossible to hide it.

Covering Up

Virtually everything in the person’s life can become secondary—friendships, family relationships, children, sex, jobs, personal hygiene, eating—you name it. At first the person may go out of their way to overcompensate. When they realise that this main focus of their lives is threatening other areas, in an attempt to have it all, they may try to maintain a perfect image to prove to those close to them that they don’t have a problem. The addict may stay late at work, have people over to dinner, keep a perfectly clean house, and in general try to portray an ideal image. At the same time, they are secretly trying to manage their addiction in isolation. This is referred to as “high functioning.”

As the addiction progresses, trying to prove that they are normal becomes more and more difficult, and eventually the addiction completely takes over. This explains why an addicted parent may eventually be forced to give up their child to a relative or social services. People who have lived through this staggering experience know that it’s not about love—these parents do love their spouses, family, and children—it’s about addiction. The addiction takes hold and consumes their very lives. This is very difficult for any family member or friend to understand, unless they have personally been through it.

Our society seems to believe that it is far worse for a mother to leave her family, but in reality the situation is devastating either way.

When to Intervene

When addiction overtakes a person’s life, and fun has become a distant memory, this is a good time for an effective intervention. When a user starts to lose things in their life that they truly used to care about, they may not know how to turn things around. They might feel helpless, and stop believing it’s possible to make life matter again. In this situation, the best thing for your addicted friend or loved one is to talk to someone who has been there. They will often say that they don’t want treatment. I’ve heard it said that “Treatment won’t work unless a person wants it.” This is not true, a professional intervention can change this mind set.

If you or someone you love is in the grips of addiction please reach out. 

If you identify with the above we can help, call us today as we can provide many options which can be tailored specifically for the individual and their loved ones.

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Tuesday, May 2, 2017



Part of my own journey toward change has involved recognizing that the power to change lies within myself, and I can’t place blame on any other person for what I choose to do with my life or choose not to do with my life. That being said, my own experience has also shown that the people I surround myself with play a major role in supporting me in my desire to change, accepting the person that I am or dragging me back toward the person that I used to be.

The types of people you may have to clean out of your lives if you want to move forward in a positive direction. Keep in mind that some difficult relationships and some challenging relationships are well worth keeping. Its the toxic relationships are the ones we need to clean out which are characterized by the following;

* Toxic relationships take heavily from us without giving anything back.
* Toxic relationships sap our joy as well as our mental and emotional energy.
* Toxic relationships represent people who are hateful, hurtful, critical and discouraging the
   vast majority of the time you are around them.
* Toxic relationships constantly leave you feeling empty, guilty, incompetent and ashamed
* Toxic relationships represent people who are verbally and emotionally abusive to you.
* Toxic relationships bring out the absolute worst in you.

Standing up to the people who are pouring negativity venom into your mind is a difficult thing. After all, many toxic individuals have mastered the art of manipulation and have ways of turning the situation around on you and heaping guilt on you when you confront them about their behavior. Patrick Mathieu said it well in this Using Mind Control With Difficult People when he provided an interesting twist on the old “insanity” line. He wrote: “Insanity is dealing with the same person over and over again and expecting them to act differently this time.” Confronting the person and making ultimatums again and again can only do so much.

Just because you have decided you want a change in your life, doesn’t mean the people represented in toxic relationships do too. You may have to close yourself off to these people to heal yourself from past wounds and proceed with the changes you want to see in your life. This might involve ignoring phone calls, deleting friends off social networks, blocking e-mails, breaking up, going separate ways or even moving out.

On some occasions, toxic relationships also represent people who tempt you back into destructive habits. For instance, if you are a recovering alcoholic and have a pack of friends who completely disregard your need to stay clean and continue to urge you to throw the brews back with them every weekend, these would be considered toxic relationships. You may have to separate yourself from these people, at least temporarily, until you are strong enough or have a personal breakthrough.

If you are experiencing these problems please make sure you reach out to your recovery sponsors, aftercare or alumni freinds, or seek out a suitable recovery coach..

If you or someone you love is in the grips of addiction call us today for a confidential assessment. CALL US TODAY PH 0439 399 809 OR EMAIL

Sunday, April 30, 2017

THE COMMON SIGNS OF ADDICTION: Robert Frank Mittiga Recovery Coach


Facing an addiction is not always easy. It is hard to acknowledge when a problem has occurred and to admit that a certain relationship with a substance or behaviour has gotten out of hand. Yet, with realization comes the ability to face the issue head on and start eliminating the negative behaviour altogether. Being educated on the key signs of addiction is important in recognizing it and catching the problem before it is too late.

If you are in the grips of an addiction or you have a loved one you feel may be suffering from addiction, check out the following signs. If you do identify with most of the following it is strongly suggested you reach out for help NOW.
In the process of becoming addicted to a substance or behaviour, a person’s life will become completely centred on that specific behaviour or substance. This often means social withdrawal and engaging only in activities that involve whatever the person is addicted to. The once light-hearted activity or substance becomes a need that initiates negative responses, should it be denied. This leads to a change in personality and often will accompany an increase in financial or academic/work-related issues. Soon, the only thing of importance will be fulfilling the need to engage in the destructive behaviour.

The more something is consumed or the more a person does the same thing over and over, the less exciting it becomes. This is due to an increased tolerance for the substance or activity. If intensity or volume levels need to be continuously raised in order for satisfaction levels to be met, then there may be a bigger issue at hand and help is probably necessary. Risk levels may also be raised with tolerance levels, meaning the person is doing something that may threaten their life, in the hope of gaining their high back.

Addiction to one thing means lack of interest in anything else. The main focus becomes the addiction and fulfilling the need for it at all costs. If a person loses interest in things that he or she once enjoyed doing, and replaces them with one overpowering behaviour then it is likely to be due to the development of an addiction. The addictive substance or behaviour will take priority over anything else and other social engagements will likely be avoided, should the substance/behaviour not be present.

4       SECRECY
If the person with the addiction hides what they are doing, it is likely due to the fact that he or she is facing problems with controlling it. When secrecy comes into play, there is a level of shame involved. The person clearly knows what they are doing is affecting day-to-day living and knows that a reprimand will follow, should they be caught. In hopes of avoiding conflict, and due to a lack of willingness to face the problem itself, secrecy is implemented. This keeps the addiction low-key and away from everyone else’s attention.

5.      DENIAL
It is not uncommon for friends and family to become aware of an issue before the person realises that they may have an addiction. If it is ever brought up that an addiction may be developing, it is typical for the person suffering to become defensive, denying there is a problem at all. The individual may confidently express that everything is under control and that the substance or activity is something that is easy to give up at a moment’s notice. This lack of acknowledgement is a clear sign of addiction.

If someone has an addiction, then withholding the addictive substance or activity from this person can cause certain types of reactions to occur, known as withdrawal symptoms. These symptoms range from light moodiness to major physical reactions, such a shaking or seizures. With certain drugs and even some behaviours it may even cause violence, as commonly seen with withdrawals from ICE. If deprivation brings about a change in personality and causes bitterness, anger, depression, or something similar, then an addiction has likely formed. Other things to watch out for are issues with sleep, digestive problems, and an increase in violent-like actions.

Making a commitment to stay away from a certain activity or substance can be a challenge, based on what that activity or substance is and how it influences one’s life. If happiness levels become dependent on a certain activity, then setting limits or taking a break from it for a specific amount of time is always a good idea

The inability to follow through on commitments is a clear sign that an addiction has developed. Often times, this lack of follow-through is accompanied by thoughts that make engaging in the negative behaviour seem like the logical option.



Tuesday, April 18, 2017

UNDERSTANDING ADDICTION: How addiction hijacks the brain. Robert Frank Mittiga Recovery Coach.

How Addiction hijacks your brain:

Addiction involves craving for something intensely, loss of control over its use, and continuing involvement with it despite adverse consequences. Addiction changes the brain, first by subverting the way it registers pleasure and then by corrupting other normal drives such as learning and motivation. Although breaking an addiction is tough, it can be done.

What causes addiction?

The word “addiction” is derived from a Latin term for “enslaved by” or “bound to.” Anyone who has struggled to overcome an addiction—or has tried to help someone else to do so—understands why.

Addiction exerts a long and powerful influence on the brain that manifests in three distinct ways: craving for the object of addiction, loss of control over its use, and continuing involvement with it despite adverse consequences.

For many years, experts believed that only alcohol and powerful drugs could cause addiction. Neuroimaging technologies and more recent research, however, have shown that certain pleasurable activities, such as gambling, shopping, and sex, can also co-opt the brain.

Although the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition or DSM-IV describes multiple addictions, each tied to a specific substance or activity, consensus is emerging that these may represent multiple expressions of a common underlying brain process.

New insights into a common problem

Nobody starts out intending to develop an addiction, but many people get caught in its snare. Consider the latest government statistics:

Nearly 2.3 million Australians—almost one in 10—are addicted to alcohol or other drugs. More than two-thirds of people with addiction abuse alcohol. The top four drugs causing addiction are ice/meth, marijuana, opioid (narcotic) pain relievers, and alcohol.

In the 1930s, when researchers first began to investigate what caused addictive behaviour, they believed that people who developed addictions were somehow morally flawed or lacking in willpower. Overcoming addiction, they thought, involved punishing miscreants or, alternately, encouraging them to muster the will to break a habit.

The scientific consensus has changed since then. Today we recognize addiction as a chronic disease that changes both brain structure and function. Just as cardiovascular disease damages the heart and diabetes impairs the pancreas, addiction hijacks the brain. This happens as the brain goes through a series of changes, beginning with recognition of pleasure and ending with a drive toward compulsive behaviour.

Pleasure principle

The brain registers all pleasures in the same way, whether they originate with a psychoactive drug, a monetary reward, a sexual encounter, or a satisfying meal. In the brain, pleasure has a distinct signature: the release of the neurotransmitter dopamine in the nucleus accumbens, a cluster of nerve cells lying underneath the cerebral cortex (see illustration). Dopamine release in the nucleus accumbens is so consistently tied with pleasure that neuroscientists refer to the region as the brain’s pleasure centre.

All drugs of abuse, from nicotine to heroin, cause a particularly powerful surge of dopamine in the nucleus accumbens. The likelihood that the use of a drug or participation in a rewarding activity will lead to addiction is directly linked to the speed with which it promotes dopamine release, the intensity of that release, and the reliability of that release.

Even taking the same drug through different methods of administration can influence how likely it is to lead to addiction. Smoking a drug or injecting it intravenously, as opposed to swallowing it as a pill, for example, generally produces a faster, stronger dopamine signal and is more likely to lead to drug misuse.

Brain's Reward Centre

Addictive drugs provide a shortcut to the brain’s reward system by flooding the nucleus accumbens with dopamine. The hippocampus lays down memories of this rapid sense of satisfaction, and the amygdala creates a conditioned response to certain stimuli.

Learning process

Scientists once believed that the experience of pleasure alone was enough to prompt people to continue seeking an addictive substance or activity. But more recent research suggests that the situation is more complicated. Dopamine not only contributes to the experience of pleasure, but also plays a role in learning and memory—two key elements in the transition from liking something to becoming addicted to it.

According to the current theory about addiction, dopamine interacts with another neurotransmitter, glutamate, to take over the brain’s system of reward-related learning. This system has an important role in sustaining life because it links activities needed for human survival (such as eating and sex) with pleasure and reward.

The reward circuit in the brain includes areas involved with motivation and memory as well as with pleasure. Addictive substances and behaviours stimulate the same circuit—and then overload it.

Repeated exposure to an addictive substance or behaviour causes nerve cells in the nucleus accumbens and the prefrontal cortex (the area of the brain involved in planning and executing tasks) to communicate in a way that couples liking something with wanting it, in turn driving us to go after it. That is, this process motivates us to take action to seek out the source of pleasure.

Do you have addiction?

Determining whether you have addiction isn’t completely straightforward. And admitting it isn’t easy, largely because of the stigma and shame associated with addiction. But acknowledging the problem is the first step toward recovery.

A “yes” answer to any of the following three questions suggests you might have a problem with addiction and should—at the very least—consult a health care provider for further evaluation and guidance.
  • Do you use more of the substance or engage in the behaviour more often than in the past?
  • Do you have withdrawal symptoms when you don’t have the substance or engage in the behaviour?
  • Have you ever lied to anyone about your use of the substance or extent of your behaviour?

Development of tolerance

Over time, the brain adapts in a way that actually makes the sought-after substance or activity less pleasurable.

In nature, rewards usually come only with time and effort. Addictive drugs and behaviours provide a shortcut, flooding the brain with dopamine and other neurotransmitters. Our brains do not have an easy way to withstand the onslaught.

Addictive drugs, for example, can release two to 10 times the amount of dopamine that natural rewards do, and they do it more quickly and more reliably. In a person who becomes addicted, brain receptors become overwhelmed. The brain responds by producing less dopamine or eliminating dopamine receptors—an adaptation similar to turning the volume down on a loudspeaker when noise becomes too loud.

As a result of these adaptations, dopamine has less impact on the brain’s reward centre. People who develop an addiction typically find that, in time, the desired substance no longer gives them as much pleasure. They have to take more of it to obtain the same dopamine “high” because their brains have adapted—an effect known as tolerance.

Compulsion takes over

At this point, compulsion takes over. The pleasure associated with an addictive drug or behaviour subsides—and yet the memory of the desired effect and the need to recreate it (the wanting) persists. It’s as though the normal machinery of motivation is no longer functioning.

The learning process mentioned earlier also comes into play. The hippocampus and the amygdala store information about environmental cues associated with the desired substance, so that it can be located again. These memories help create a conditioned response—intense craving—whenever the person encounters those environmental cues.

Cravings contribute not only to addiction but to relapse after a hard-won sobriety. A person addicted to heroin may be in danger of relapse when he sees a hypodermic needle, for example, while another person might start to drink again after seeing a bottle of whiskey. Conditioned learning helps explain why people who develop an addiction risk relapse even after years of abstinence.

Recovery is possible

It is not enough to “just say no”—as the 1980s slogan suggested. Instead, you can protect (and heal) yourself from addiction by saying “yes” to other things. Cultivate diverse interests that provide meaning to your life. Understand that your problems usually are transient, and perhaps most importantly, acknowledge that life is not always supposed to be pleasurable.


Tuesday, March 28, 2017

ZERO TOLERENCE: A New Drug Policy for AUSTRALIA - Robert Frank Mittiga Recovery Coach


As a treatment and recovery professional with 20 years experience in this field, working with many addicts and their loved ones on the front lines, I have been grappling with the dilema of how can we as a society stem the growing public health problem of drug addiction.

Not a week goes by that I am hearing from Australian families from all walks of life that are being torn apart by the consequences of drug addiction. This is across the board in all states, cities and regional areas.  It is heartbreaking to say the least. 

Grandparent after grandparent having to take over the care of young children, because the their adult children are so out of control, and in some cases causing harm to their innocent little children. Parents reporting being physically and emotionally abused by their own children. Parents becoming frieghtened of their own children. Ive had a few parents becoming suicidal because they have been so traumatised by their loved ones drug addiction. 
I have even had cases over the last few years of parents having to re-mortgage their homes to pay off drug dealers for their loved ones drug debts, because their lives have been threatened by these "scumbag" drug dealers.
The Government of our day is spending millions and millions fighting terroism, and sure this is a serious issue, however I believe the real "terroism" fight is in the fight agaist drug addiction in our own backyard. Many  lives are being senslesly lost each day due to drug addiction in this country. It is estimated that at least 35 people are dying each week in this country directly from drug addiction. Yet in comparison the amount of money invested by the government in fighting drug addiction is very minimal compared to the money thrown at terroism. Doesnt make any sense to me at all, except there obviously must be more "VOTES" in the terroism fight than drug addiction.
Sydney's senior law enforcement agency has made the astonishing admission that they have lost the war on drugs, as reported in the Daily telegraph on 27th January this year. The Telegraph also reported that organised crime in NSW is “out of control” and anti-drug agencies are failing dismally to stem the tsunami of narcotics flooding the  streets.
The Telegaph also  revealed that the number of drug lords operating in Sydney has soared to 607, and law enforcement officers are unable to track them due to the criminals’ use of ­hi-tech encrypted phones.
These shocking revelations follow a recent report by the NSW Crime Commission which says organised crime is at levels not seen previously in NSW”The report found the rise of “public enemies” was “almost entirely driven by the prohibited drugs market”  Methamphetamine (ice) and cocaine supplies are high and prices for both are considerably lower than five years ago,” the report says. Offshore interests decide the volume of drugs that are imported into Australia and the domestic drug consumption market will consume whatever is available. When an oversupply occurs, the result is a reduction in the price of prohibited drugs, which is precisely what we are seeing at present.
IN MY RESEARCH OVER THE YEARS....Sweden is the model nation for a drug-free society. Its drug consumption rates are a fraction of those in Spain and Germany, and what follows is low crime rates. What a surprise!
When you hear hysterical cries from the pro-drug lobby about the futility of law enforcement to curb drug use, they rarely cite Sweden’s zero-tolerance approach. The Swedes as a race condemn illegal drugs and, with the exception of a few pro-drug academics, they support their police and judiciary in keeping drugs away from young people.
Critics cite a number of overdose deaths among recidivist drug users, but those critics won’t or can’t tell you how many thousands of lives have been saved.
Here in Australia, the folly of "harm minimisation" and the head-in-the-sand attitude of our governments to a drug-free solution are appalling. It’s time we had a debate that included all Australians, not just the so-called experts.
Personally I believe ZERO-TOLERANCE has to be the answer. It would give the authorities and health services the opportunity to identify the individuals that need help, and then the problem would be given back to the addict. What this means very simply.....identified addicts would be given the choice accept help or suffer the consequences.
One of the goals of Swedish drug policy has been not to punish drug users, but to offer help and rehabilitation, described as a "caring chain" of outreach services, detoxification, out-patient care and institutional care comprising abstinence based treatment. I believe that this type of drug policy, perhaps with some adjustments, may be our only way of steming this soul destroying and heartbreaking epidemic of DRUG ADDICTION in our land. 

Robert Frank Mittiga
International Addiction Recovery Coach / Therapist
Ph 0439 399 809 EMAIL

Saturday, March 25, 2017


Robert Frank Mittiga Recovery Coach AUSTRALIA

To understand the addictive disorder, you need to understand that an addictive illness can be physical, mental, and emotional. Whether or not it is one or all of the three, it is always spiritual. Substances, people, behaviours, etc. are merely symptoms of a much deeper and perverse soul sickness. An addiction is something that gives a person an immediate sense of feeling whole, even though many claim to enjoy the side effects, the real sense of seeming pleasure comes from the immediate gratification and or distraction from reality they achieve with any given symptom.

Addiction recovery is not a system that changes the effects of the substance, but rather heals the person in a way that their new sense of reality is that they do not need anything or anyone to feel whole, complete, and content with life. Many people with an addictive personality disorder will shift their attention from one substance to another, and what usually transpires is that they become addicted to poly-substance abuse. Once the initial high or effect is achieved, they will go to the point of overdose to try and experience that feeling again, and the results are always disappointing. People will go to some outrageous extremes and expense, only to find what they want isn’t there.

Alcohol for example, is a sedative, depressant anesthetic drug, which puts the brain to sleep from the front to the back, and no matter how much of you drink, the euphoria is very temporary, and the central nervous system depression (hangover) is the only thing that lasts. Then the insane craving for more leads to untold disasters. The same is pretty much true for any substance, belief, behavior, attitude or whatever a person uses to achieve the initial high, no matter how much of the substance or behavior they apply to their lifestyle, they never get that initial feeling again. People become disillusioned that they didn’t take enough, or didn’t use enough of the symptom substance and consequently overdose.

Recovery is first about abstinence and a time of withdrawal from the addiction of choice. The person must then find a new sense of wholeness, so that reversion back to the false sense of well being is not sought in the addictive items of choice. There are a variety of options available to someone with an addictive personality disorder to recover a sense of dignity, identity and purpose in life that will make further addictive behaviors unnecessary.

The first step to recovery is to understand what the substances/behaviours, etc. are, what they actually do or don’t do, and then realize that what one wants in their life cannot come from these items, simply because they don’t provide those effects.

Then one needs to discover something that empowers them to resist the lure of old patterns. Twelve Step groups use a “Higher Power” or God to give them the spiritual stamina to remain abstinent, and the guidance to realize that all that is needed for a person to be whole and well is within them. It’s finding a new sense of self that makes a person feel comfortable in their own skin without a perceived need to add something to that persona that wasn’t already there.

It’s important to take an honest look at the past and see what the effects of the addiction were, and the damage caused to self and others, and feel genuine remorse as well as an honest desire to set things straight with their universe. Self-reliance along with interdependence on others is a healthy relationship with one’s universe. As people clean up their side if the street, they feel a sense of spiritual pride, which replaces the false high they sought from addictive behaviors.

As people begin to develop a sense of character and confidence, they find no need to revert back to old ways of doing things. The majority of addicts will recidivate at least twice in the first couple of years in recovery, but many do continue to work on their new way of life until they achieve some long term abstinence coupled with a recovery of a life they will be unwilling to trade for the instant gratification of an addictive illness.

The single largest ingredient in the success formula of the recovery programs that i use, is working with others, and becoming both a support system and role model for people who are new to recovery. This gives a person yet another strength they need to enjoy freedom from addiction. Most people who gain the values, habits, attitudes and beliefs of a well person will not return to the old way of living. They may have some emotional relapses into old behaviours and habits over time, but they will also have acquired the skills to stop the day and start over whenever needed to retain their recovery.

If you or someone you LOVE is in the grips of ADDICTION, call us TODAY  0439 399 809

EATING DISORDERS and TRAUMA ..the link: Robert Frank Mittiga RECOVERY COACH

EATING DISORDERS and TRAUMA ..the link: Robert Frank Mittiga RECOVERY COACH

Studies show that the link between experiences of trauma and developing an eating disorder are very strong. Research reveals that those who are affected by eating disorders have a disproportionately high experience of neglect and/or abuses of all types: sexual, emotional and physical, usually during childhood.

These traumas often result in psychological problems such as depression, low self-esteem, loneliness and anxiety. When addressing disordered eating, it is necessary to also address prior traumas the patient may have undergone.

Though trauma can also be experienced through living in a dysfunctional or alcoholic home, the death of a loved one, violent assault or even by living through a natural disaster, the commonality is an occasion of deep hurt and feeling helplessly out of control in the situation. It should be noted that while Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is also linked to experienced trauma, it is not linked to eating disorders and has its own distinct criteria.

In an attempt to manage the pain and negative emotions associated with trauma, a person may develop an eating disorder. Underneath the behavior is an attempt to take back a measure of control. As an example, the woman who suffers rape may overeat to excess (binge) and gain weight to avoid attracting further male attention.

Conversely, she may severely restrict her food intake (anorexia) to assert control over her own body. It is imperative that patients deal with prior trauma in order to truly recover from an eating disorder. Until the trauma is addressed, relapse casts a large shadow over treatment.

If YOU or someone you love is in the grips of an Eating Disorder; Compulsive over eating, Bulimia, or Anorexia call us today for immediate confidential help.
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Wednesday, March 22, 2017

ADDICTION RECOVERY CHECKLIST: Robert Frank Mittiga Recovery Coach

Addiction Recovery Checklist
There may be debate about the general stages of recovery, but almost everyone agrees that the first 90 days of recovery are critical. That’s because it’s during this time that most relapses occur. You’re still so new to being clean and sober that you haven’t yet become comfortable in practicing your recovery skills or dealing with everyday life without your “drug” of choice, whether that’s a substance(s) or a behaviour(s).
If you’re just returning home from treatment, there’s so much that gets thrown at you — your home, family, job and friends. Sometimes — often, in fact — it can feel like too much. When you give up an addiction, you give up more than a substance or behavior; you give up a means of navigating (however ineffectively) life. Without structure, routine and consistency, you’re likely to find your recovery far more difficult to manage, and it may even collapse.
So start off slowly so that you don’t become overwhelmed by all that you want or believe you need to do. Remember that recovery isn’t a race but a lifelong journey.
A list of important goals for your first year of recovery. Use it as a reminder and to help you stay on track in the days and months ahead.  

  • Accept that you have an addiction.
  • Practice honesty in your life.
  • Learn to avoid high-risk situations.
  • Learn to ask for help.
  • There are many paths to recovery. The most difficult doing it alone.
  • Practice calling friends or coach before you have cravings.
  • Become actively involved in self-help recovery groups.
  • Go to discussion meetings and begin to share. You are not alone.
  • Get a sponsor and do step work.
  • Get rid of using friends.
  • Make time for you and your recovery.
  • Celebrate your small victories. Recovery is about progress not perfection.
  • Practice saying no.
  • Take better care of yourself.
  • Develop healthy eating and sleeping habits.
  • Learn how to relax and let go of stress.
  • Discover how to have fun clean and sober.
  • Make new recovery friends and bring them into your life.
  • Re-evaluate your lifestyle periodically to make sure you remain on track.
  • Deal with cravings by “playing the tape forward” What will happen if you start?
  • Find ways to distract yourself when you have cravings.
  • Physical activity helps many aspects of recovery.
  • Deal with post-acute withdrawal symptoms.
  • Develop strategies for social environments where drinking or drugging is involved.
  • Keep a gratitude list of your recovery, your life, and the people in it.
  • Say goodbye to your addiction.
  • Develop tolerance and compassion for others and for yourself.
  • Begin to give back and help others once you have a solid recovery.
  • See yourself as a non-user.